When Your Vibe Doesn’t Match Your Words, It Scares the Crap Out of Us Autistic Folks
You may think you’re showing friendliness and kindness to your autistic loved one, but when your vibe doesn’t match your words, we’ll know, and you will scare us.
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“If You Really Loved Me, You Would…” – Never Say That to Your Autistic Partner Again
Your autistic partner loves you, but they may not show it the way you expect. However, if you say something like, “If you loved me, you would…”, you’re abusing them, even if it’s unintentional. Here’s how to achieve better communication in your relationship.
For Autistic People, Rules Are Set in Stone
Does your autistic loved one seem “stuck” on rules? Rules are like oxygen to us. We need them. Learn why.
Sexual Innuendo and the Autistic Mind – A Match Made in Confusion
Do you have trouble understanding flirting and subtext as an autistic person? Same. Learn how neurotypical and neurodivergent people can communicate their needs and desires more effectively with one another.
Scaffolding – A Learning Technique That Helps Autistic Children Achieve Independence
Struggling to help your autistic child achieve understanding and mastery of household tasks? Try this scaffolding technique!
“Nevermind” Why You Should Never Say This to Your Autistic Loved One
“Nevermind” may be one of the worst things you can say to your autistic child because you are stealing their ability to be independent right out from under them!
“What Is the Motivation for This?” – The Question That Saves Lives
“What is the motivation for this?” Before you have an emotional reaction to something your autistic loved one has said, not said, done, or not done, ask yourself this question, and save yourself serious heartbreak and trauma on both sides.
Getting One Social Expectation Down Doesn’t Mean We Suddenly Know Them All
If an autistic person learns one neurotypical social skills, we learn ONE neurotypical social skill. ONE. We’re not pretending or fooling you, and this is how we need you to explain things to us.
“I Don’t Know What That Means” Is a Request for More Information
“I don’t know what that means.” If you hear this from an autistic person, they probably need more information from you in order to understand what you’re telling them.
Just Because We Don’t Like Your Car Doesn’t Mean We Don’t Like You
Why doesn’t my autistic friend even notice what I drive? Material things don’t mean that much to us, but you do!
