Things Don’t Exist to Me Unless I Need Them (An Autistic Perspective)
Things don’t exist to me unless I need them. This is my autistic perspective on why many of us can’t “see” what’s right in front of us.
Category: Dating & Relationships
“By Now…” – Two Words That Can Cause Irreparable Damage in Inter-Neurotype Relationships
Love isn’t ‘powering through the challenges’ while holding out hope that eventually the autistic person will change. Your friendship, kindness, and caring doesn’t yield a ‘reward’ of a non-autistic person in the end.
Autistic People Don’t “Get Used to” Sensory Triggers We Are Forced to Endure, We Disassociate From Them
Does “training” an autistic person to endure sensory triggers make them easier to endure? No. It forces the autistic person to do the only thing they can to survive: Disassociate their entire lives.
“I Don’t Understand Why You Can’t Just…” – Please Don’t Say This to Autistic People (Or Anyone)
“Why can’t you just…?” When you say this to an autistic person, it’s the same as asking a blind person why they can’t see. We are wired differently, and we always will be.
Why Your Autistic Loved One May Prefer to Do Housework Alone
Does your autistic loved one appear to be more comfortable doing housework when they are alone? Here’s why.
Touch and the Autistic Person
Do autistic people dislike touch? Yes and no. It depends on the autistic person! Here’s how touch affects some autistic people and how to communicate more effectively about it.
“Stop Yelling at Me!” – Why You May Hear This From Your Autistic Loved One When You Haven’t Raised Your Voice
“Stop yelling at me!” You don’t have to raise your voice even slightly to yell at an autistic person, here’s why. (Hint: It’s not sound sensitivity.)
How Do Autistic People Make Friends?
How do autistic people make friends? Well, I do have a formula, but you might not want to use it because it involves purposefully masking.
Let’s Talk About Gift Disappointment for Autistic People
Why do autistic people have difficulty with gifts? It’s much harder for us to hide disappointment in gifts, and our feelings can get hurt because the gifts seem to reflect a lack of understanding of us as people.
Autistic People Often Don’t Realize We’ve Deeply Hurt a Neurotypical Person’s Feelings (The Library Story)
Has an autistic person in your life offended you, but they don’t seem to care? They may not even be AWARE that they hurt you at all, and your reaction is scaring them!
