Why Your Autistic Loved One Appears to “Ignore” You
Your autistic loved one isn’t ignoring you out of malice, we just process the world differently.
Category: Common Misconceptions
“You Are So Defensive!!”
Why is my autistic loved one so defensive all the time? Why can’t they just apologize? Because we don’t know what we’re apologizing for!
Why Many Autistic People Have Trouble Apologizing
Does your autistic loved one have trouble apologizing? This is a common misconception. It’s not that we don’t want to apologize, we don’t understand what we have to apologize for!
The “Communication Without Empathy” Myth That Needs to Disappear Into a Black Hole
Do autistic people really “communicate without empathy”? No. This is a common misconception that is very dangerous to the autistic community.
Autistic People Often Can’t Detect Our Own Tone of Voice
When an autistic person sounds rude to a neurotypical person due to tone of voice, oftentimes, the autistic person has no idea how they sound.
An Important Note About What Autistic Masking ISN’T
Autistic masking isn’t an attempt to fool others, it’s an attempt to protect ourselves
Trauma, Torture, and False Confessions – This Is Not Going to Be a Light Read (Trigger Warning)
Yelling at an autistic child (or any autistic person) until they “confess” what they’ve done is abusive and traumatizing. There’s nothing to confess. We are just speaking different neurological languages.
We Have Trouble Connecting Our Behavior to Your Response
Why does my autistic loved one seem so confused about my obvious anger? It might not be obvious to us! Read to understand what’s happening in our brains a bit better.
We Don’t Know What Our Faces Are Doing
A “blank” or impassive facial expression on an autistic person can be disconcerting if you don’t understand what’s happening. We often don’t know what our faces are doing, and there is no insult or threat aimed at you.
Many Autistic People Experience Delayed Emotional Processing
Delayed emotional processing in autistic people is often misunderstood as being cold and unfeeling or being hysterical. We just process emotions in a different way.
