Neurotypical Frustration Magnifies Autistic Anxiety 10-Fold
If you become frustrated with your autistic loved one, they will not be able to understand you and will become incredibly anxious and scared. Here’s how to communicate more effectively.
Category: Common Misconceptions
Shade Never Made Anybody Less Autistic
You can’t make someone not autistic. We always have been and always will be, but you can learn to better understand us, so we can communicate more peacefully and effectively.
We Don’t Use Big Words to Show Off
Why do autistic people use big words? It’s not to show off, it’s just how we talk.
When Your Vibe Doesn’t Match Your Words, It Scares the Crap Out of Us Autistic Folks
You may think you’re showing friendliness and kindness to your autistic loved one, but when your vibe doesn’t match your words, we’ll know, and you will scare us.
“Nevermind” Why You Should Never Say This to Your Autistic Loved One
“Nevermind” may be one of the worst things you can say to your autistic child because you are stealing their ability to be independent right out from under them!
Getting One Social Expectation Down Doesn’t Mean We Suddenly Know Them All
If an autistic person learns one neurotypical social skills, we learn ONE neurotypical social skill. ONE. We’re not pretending or fooling you, and this is how we need you to explain things to us.
“You Know What You Did” Is Emotional Blackmail to an Autistic Person (And Anyone, Really)
“You know what you did.” No, your autistic friend or family member does NOT know what they did, and the only thing you’re doing by saying that is traumatizing them. Here’s how to communicate with an autistic person more effectively.
We Honestly Think You’re Messing With Our Heads
Why does my autistic loved one think I’m lying to them when I explain my emotions? We literally think you’re messing with our heads.
“Nobody Can Tell You Anything!” – Yes, You Can. You Just Need a Different Approach
“Nobody can tell you anything!” Does your autistic loved one seem defensive or frightened when you confront them about something? Try this helpful approach!
Why Autistic People Can’t “See” What’s Right in Front of Us
Your autistic loved one is not lazy, unmotivated, or pretending to not see what’s right in front of them. We literally CAN’T see it!
